Why The Negative Thoughts?
Your thoughts run your life. They either add to your well-being or make you emotionally and physically sick.
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Every second of the day, you are thinking about something.
Whether it is about a dilemma you are having or about what you are going to eat later, you are always thinking about something.
If you sat there and counted the amount of different thoughts you had daily, you would be shocked and astonished by the variety of the thoughts in your mind.
With the thousands of thoughts we have, there are differences between the type of thoughts.
There are neutral, positive and negative thoughts. These are subjective and differ for each person.
Neutral thoughts are thoughts that you have no emotional connection to.
They come and go, without you paying much attention to them.
They may be about the color of the sky, the time of day, or the color shirt you are wearing.
These thoughts do not bother you and tend to fly by unnoticed.
You don’t think twice about these thoughts. Ironically, neutral thoughts can differ for each person.
While the time of the day is a neutral thought for me, it may be a negative thought for someone else.
Positive thoughts are thoughts that cause you to feel good.
You know you are having a positive thought when you start to feel positive emotions, such as joy, happiness, elation, excitement, and passion.
The more positive you feel, the more positive situations you will attract to you.
In cognitive behavioral therapy, it is taught that positive thoughts lead to positive feelings, which lead to positive behaviors.
It all starts and ends with your thoughts.
To have positive feelings and behaviors, you need to start with positive thoughts.
If you believe that something good will happen to you, it likely will. It is really that simple.
Oh, but our brains don’t like simple, remember?
That is why we have so much junk in our brains, specifically in the form of negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts are thoughts that make you feel uneasy, anxious, disappointed and angry.
Unfortunately, it is so easy to feel negative thoughts.
It seems like these thoughts are always popping in and out of our brains.
Negative thoughts make you feel uneasy and uncomfortable.
For many people, they may cause full blown disorders, such as Major Depression Disorder, Anxiety Disorder, PostTraumatic Stress Disorder, and so forth.
These are actually referred to as disorders of the mind.
It all sounds so simplistic, but the causes of major illnesses such as the ones just mentioned are accumulations of negative thought patterns.
Of course, there are situations that cause depression, for example losing one’s job or a death of a loved one.
However, if we look at the root of depression, we find that the cause is negative thoughts in response to specific situations, such as loss of a job and etc.
To recap, negative thoughts lead to negative feelings and behaviors.
Over time, one’s thought process becomes purely negative in this pattern.
It is so easy to get caught up in negative thinking patterns, because many of them confirm beliefs we have about ourselves.
For example, if you were abused as a child, you most likely struggle with abandonment issues and loss of control.
As you grow through life, your mind becomes more sensitive to feeling a loss of control due to your earlier experiences.
You may find yourself in abusive relationships or in friendships where you feel used.
You feel that you have no control over your life, which causes you to attract more similar experiences.
Now, consciously you don’t want similar experiences, but unconsciously your mind thinks that you deserve them.
Until you address your unconscious thought patterns, you will be in this cycle forever.
This feeling pattern can happen in a variety of instances.
If you struggle with low self-image and self-esteem, you may find yourself in abusive relationships as an adult.
Since your mind has already been programmed to feel this way, you have easy access to negative thoughts.
Being negative and feeling sad become second-nature for you.
Much of the way you think is a combination of your past experiences, upbringing, personality and dedication to changing the way you think.
Many of my clients will insist that they have no control over their thoughts.
They state that their thoughts just pop up and accumulate.
This is true, but as we talk about in therapy, thoughts can be changed with dedication and a willingness to do so.
This is not an overnight process and will take some time, but it is very possible.
The more you learn about your thoughts, the more you will be able to manage them.
The goal is to manage, not eliminate, your negative thoughts.
It would be unrealistic to state that we can eliminate negative thoughts forever.
In reality, even the happiest person has negative thoughts.
The difference is that happy people have learned the art of managing their negative thoughts.
When something bad happens, they don’t over think and blame themselves for the occurance.
They don’t constantly sit there and call themselves losers.
They realize that everyone makes mistakes.
As the Law of Attraction states, your thoughts attract your experiences.
When you have positive thoughts, you are in a feeling state of feeling good and attracting positive experiences to you.
The goal is to feel good every moment and to know that things are working in your favor if you allow them to. ‘
The more negative your thoughts, the more negative situations and feelings you will attract.
Have you ever met a happy person with a negative mindset or vice versa?
There is no such thing as a happy person who has negative thoughts.
Your happiness is in your hands and can be controlled by your thoughts.
There is no complex formula to happiness and you don’t have to spend thousands of dollars to do so.
Take control of your life now. Do this for yourself.
You can literally attract any experience to you, once you learn how to take control of your life.
The first step in taking control of your life includes taking control of your thoughts.